My parents are avid gardeners. Our garden has coconut trees, flowering plants, creepers, cacti, lemon, papaya, jackfruit trees, some banana plants, small herbs, curry leaf trees, a chilly plant with tiny chillies whose size belie their dangerous spice levels. Earlier this year, the perennially inactive lemon tree suddenly flowered and gave us massive produce, making up for all its fruitless years. My mother froze most of the lemon juice in our ice tray, leading to a handy supply. Having a garden means small adventures every so often, when all hands are required on deck to prevent one huge jackfruit from falling and hitting the ground during harvest. A quick dance with a dupatta to catch the falling fruit (which fails more often than it succeeds), insects galore, dried vegetation and stray cats casually bossing around the place are just some of the perks we regularly enjoy.
Since I returned home in March, one super-productive member of the garden has been the drumstick tree. My mom is fond of recalling how my father saved the tree from eternal damnation from a family of vengeful termites. And my parent’s continuous patronage has resulted in this tree fruiting generously. When the lockdown was first initiated and we weren’t sure if we would get fruits and vegetables, my parents were convinced that we could subsist on the drumstick tree alone (Atmanirbhan- even before Modi could conjure that up), and my, have they lived up to their word. We have had drumstick leaves and drumsticks in every form imaginable and with frightening frequency – drumstick leaves soup, poriyal, adai, podi, kootu, drumstick soup, poriyal, sambar, drumsticks in kurma and avial, sometimes kootu for lunch followed by soup in the evening. I haven’t really taken to moringa recipes and the first to complain on harvest day, gently reminding my parents of the many neighbors and relatives who would also enjoy various exotic moringa recipes. But, strangely and surprisingly, my mom has developed this recipe for a multi-purpose podi out of moringa leaves, known for their slightly bitter taste. This podi retains that flavor, though less bitter tasting than the leaves themselves, and tastes amazing mixed with hot rice and ghee, or with gingelly oil as an accompaniment to dosa. It’s even toddler approved- my 3-year-old nephew eats it with no complaints!
Now, the jackfruit ranks even lower on the list of produce that I like. This is a matter of continual shame to my parents who resort to the classic Tamil “does the donkey know camphor’s smell” attitude whenever they cut and clean one. That is one heck of a laborious job and even I can’t fault them for their attitude when their ungrateful children steer clear of the kitchen and not even touch a single piece. Bravely, my elder sister decided to coax something more from the jackfruit and unsuccessfully attempted a jam, the strong vapors (so highly reminiscent of the durian) that emanated during the cooking process doomed the jam even before it could be bottled. Our resistance to this marvelous fruit hasn’t deterred them and as I write this there are 3 huge jackfruits sitting in the kitchen, waiting to be eaten. Last week, a small jackfruit with just 8 pods had fallen off the tree and in passing, I ate 2 which turned out to be deliciously sweet, somewhat softening my aversion. Whether this is enough to jack up my enthusiasm for this fruit remains to be seen.

On that note, I was pleasantly surprised to watch the movie Call Me By Your Name and be equally enamored by the novel which I read immediately after, so much so that I can’t decide which I liked more. The movie touched me in a way not many other movies in recent times had. It was a beautiful, coming-of-age love story, played to perfection by young actor Timothee Chalamet who performs Elio with abandon. Elio is a teenager on the cusp of manhood, intelligent and talented, living with equally intelligent and talented people. Within the protective confines of his summer house in Italy, he falls in love with the Oliver, a visiting exchange student to Italy. Chalamet’s Elio wears his heart on his sleeve and exudes a brash confident exterior. He leans on his parents for the kind of support you rarely see teenagers on screen go to their parents for. Much of Chalamet’s performance makes up for what is lost from the intimate first-person tone of the novel, the latter comes across as intensely obsessive, stalker-y account of a teenager’s mind harboring a lusty infatuation for an older man. Aciman’s novel digs deep into the psyche of the singularly hormonal teenager Elio who craves for physical intimacy not just from Oliver but also from a female friend. Elio, with Oliver, navigates these conflicting feelings of belonging, jealousy and desire together sans judgement. One aspect that the movie lacked sorely was with Elio coming to terms with his feelings about his first night with Oliver. A feeling of shame that he feels on the morning after remains rather under explored. Elio is reticent to talk about it with Oliver. I wanted to witness more of what Elio and Oliver spoke about, but dialogue is few and far between. Elio acknowledging and overcoming his shame takes its time and ultimately stems from a deepening physical intimacy and a domesticity that comes with couple-dom.


